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A little Wednesday-afternoon ugliness
(Trigger Warning, natch).

1. Over at Medium, here's a superb piece called When You're Friends With a Rapist.

2. If you're not like the social circle described in that piece, if you decide that it's okay to invite the rapist to gatherings or into your home, you are sending a really fucking significant message to the entire community. And it's a message about yourself. Yes, that person might be fun, or pretty, or the only person you know who can bartend at your party/accompany you to a show/help you move that heavy desk. They might even be funny and a great addition to the conversation. It sucks to lose that. But if you really think that what you'd lose by excluding a rapist is more than the sheer fucking humanity you'd lose from not doing so, you might want to look real hard at yourself in the mirror.

3. See also, the Geek Social Fallacies. Note that predators (and assholes in general) rely on them.

4. While I'm at it, see The Missing Stair, although I can't imagine that anyone hasn't read that one.

5. Because afternoons shouldn't be entirely ugly, here's a picture of our new-to-us cat, a member of the household for about 2 weeks now.
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shadesong From: shadesong Date: July 9th, 2014 05:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
(This post was originally going to go up on June 22nd, but we were allowing party hosts time to come to decisions. We do not have a fourth cat.)
yendi From: yendi Date: July 9th, 2014 05:58 pm (UTC) (Link)
D'oh! Yeah, fixed that.
shadesong From: shadesong Date: July 9th, 2014 05:59 pm (UTC) (Link)
*grin* Because I wouldn't put it past us!
rolypolypony From: rolypolypony Date: July 9th, 2014 06:48 pm (UTC) (Link)
KITTY!!!
yendi From: yendi Date: July 9th, 2014 07:38 pm (UTC) (Link)
:-)

She's a gorgeous and mischievous girl.
rolypolypony From: rolypolypony Date: July 9th, 2014 08:30 pm (UTC) (Link)
She does have that look about her!
spoothbrush From: spoothbrush Date: July 9th, 2014 08:11 pm (UTC) (Link)
Just... if you are having a party, and you do anything that's conveying a message like "You know who belongs at this party? THE RAPEY GUY!" then you really suck at having parties.
rolypolypony From: rolypolypony Date: July 9th, 2014 08:31 pm (UTC) (Link)
Right?
yendi From: yendi Date: July 9th, 2014 10:17 pm (UTC) (Link)
Seriously! And this guy hosts a lot of parties.
omnia_mutantur From: omnia_mutantur Date: July 9th, 2014 09:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
Torties for the win! Unless she's a calico, and then calicos for the win.

arielstarshadow From: arielstarshadow Date: July 9th, 2014 09:58 pm (UTC) (Link)
I have just about had it with ignorant humans.
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